Being a full time stay at home mom is one of the most wonderful rewarding “jobs” out there. I highly recommend if you have the means to do so, it is well worth all the difficulties that may come hand in hand with the decision.
I came to the realization some time ago the life is no longer about me, but about this little boy that holds my heart. And now I have split that heart in two and have to chase both of the pieces around and keep them safe and happy. I am no longer in control of what makes this happen, but I do know that a big part of it is routine and schedule.
I, myself, would love to be a spontaneous person, but these two little beings that are my world need structure. This can be a hard concept for some to grasp, and some never get a hold of it at all. Unfortunately, my husband has it right on his fingertips but can’t quite get a hold of it.
We are about half way through Jake’s paid family leave, and I honestly have been enjoying his time home more than expected. Although when you are used to being the only one home 5 days a week, it can become difficult learning to co-parent during this time. (And you thought this post was going to be about something else didn’t you?)
I love my husband, he is a wonderful amazingly loving father, but like any other set of parents out there getting on the same page can be an endeavor. Lots of long conversations and frustrating “disagreements” later, I am finally starting to feel like we are at least in the same ball park and no longer playing two different games.
Moral of the lesson: talk talk talk! And when that doesn’t work, talk some more. And MOST importantly, listen.
Jameson is learning how to dress himself, and with that comes letting him pick out his own outfits. This can be rather frustrating for a mom that likes her little man to be at the very least in matching clothes. THANKFULLY, my little mister is learning from his mama… But still has his own style.
Today’s outfit… Pajama shirt, grey skinny jeans, and dinosaur rain boots, complete with monster hat. BAM!
I get asked all the time (before whenI had Jameson and even more so now) how one Earth I manage to make 3 meals a day from scratch and on top of that snack foods like homemade apple sauce, crackers, and fruit roll ups (just to name a few).
The truth is, it’s all about the tricks. I LOVE to cook, more so I LOVE food! Which means I spend much of my day in the kitchen. I have two tricks that allow this to happen with an energetic 2.5 year old and a 2 month old.
Number 1 is BABYWEARING! If Ryland isn’t down “playing” then he is more than likely nursing or being worn (and sometimes both at the same time.)
Babywearing is magic in my opinion. I don’t know how people survive without it. It allows you to snuggle you baby and have two free hands! Who doesn’t want that?!? My family thrives in a schedule and do you know how hard it is to stick to a schedule if you need to stop whatever it is your doing to nurse a baby. Wearing your baby allows for you to nurse on the go, and you can do it discreetly while out and about like grocery shopping. 🙂
Number 2 is getting your toddler to be your sue chief. Jameson loves being in the kitchen almost as much as I do. I have an array of kitchen tools that allow me to let him help, in fact I started selling The Pampered Chef products in order to get more of their tools that my big guy can use.
One of his favorite tools is the Manual Food Processor. Jameson normally does all my chopping for me, in fact he gets mad at me if I forget to let him do it. On top of keeping him busy so you can cook, and he is actually helping; there is proof showing that if children are involved in deciding what is made and actually preparing it they are more likely to eat it, or at least give it a try. Plus it’s a great learning experience: counting, measuring, colors, shapes…
If I really can’t find anything for him to help me with, my back up is ask him to cook me something in HIS kitchen. If I am very specific about what I need him to make and how to make it he feels very needed. The key to this is to make sure you add his creation to my whatever it is he is cooking.
Here is the link to my Pampered Chef Site. Make sure to ask if you need any ideas of things to help get your kids helping in the kitchen!
Along with my eating healthier “resolution”, I decided that it was about time to get Jameson more on track with eating what we eat. I always wanted him to eat dinner with us and eat what we eat, but to be honest I catered to him a little bit. If I made something for dinner I “knew” he wouldn’t eat I would make him something else. The WORST was that I was so lazy to make dinner after Ryland was born I would wait for my Jake to come home to eat, and most of the time this would be past Jameson’s bedtime so for him I would make something different…. CORN DOGS! Jameson LOVES corn dogs. He ate far to many in between Rylands birth and New Years.
Jake and I were dedicated to get this kid straight. It was difficult for a few days. Jameson hardly ate anything and threw a fit when we wouldn’t cater to his every
need WANT. He is just now starting to understand that he eats what is put in front of him or he just doesn’t eat. I am extremely proud to say I have found a few things that never in a million year would I think he would eat but not only did he eat it, he LOVED it.
I think we have made a turn for the better. It didn’t take as long as I had expected and it wasn’t half as bad as I anticipated. I am so glad we made this change, I no longer go to bed at night feeling like a horrible mother because of what my two year old ate all day. He is eating a crazy amount of vegetables now! Fruits are still a work in progress.
I still can’t believe my little baby is 2 months old…. I will never again have a 1 month old baby. My heart aches but yet I am so happy to see him grow and mold into the person that he is going to be. I am happy that we know we are done having children, it really makes me enjoy every moment that much more.
Ryland is such a great baby. He wakes up 3-5 times a night (really depends on the day) and is starting to have some long awake times during the day. He loves “tummy time” and has amazing head control. He smiles when we make farting noises and is the best snuggler. He loves being worn, and enjoys “chewing” on the wraps.
He looks so much like Jameson, but then at the same time looks completely different. One thing for sure is they have two entirely different smiles!
It was so great to use one little organic whole chicken become not one but two whole meals with LOTS of leftovers.
I have to admit the 100 Days of Real Food is such a life savor for those thinking about cutting out processed foods from their diet!
My “BIG” New Years Resolution is to my family on a healthier track, meaning eating healthier and being more active. My first step in my resolution is to cut down on processed foods. I usually don’t make resolutions, but since I feel the need for a serious change, and new years is here I will call it that. Unfortunately, when I was pregnant with Ryland I had some serious morning sickness and later in pregnancy had serious back pain so we relied on processed foods more than I would like to admit. Then, once Ryland was born even though I stuffed my freezer full of food we were still eating lots of JUNK!
I stumbled upon this amazing website, plantoeat.com. I am a firm believer in meal planing and this website takes it to a whole new level. You are able to input your favorite recipes, plan out every meal/snack, and print out a shopping list for everything you need to make everything on your plan! The shopping list is my big selling point with this website. Taking the time to compile a shopping list is a lot of work, and if I don’t have a shopping list to stick to I come home with a ton of junk to eat, and food that I forget about and end up having to throw away at some point. Talk about a waste of money.
The big thing to remember about resolutions, or honestly any big life change, is that is a work in progress. Nothing happens overnight. If I have a bad day where I end up eating nothing but fast food doesn’t mean I’m going to give up, it means I’m going to work harder the next day. Hell, The first day I had planned to start my resolution (yesterday) we last-minute spend over 5 hours in the car. It really isn’t my finest moment to say we at breakfast at McDonalds and had more than one venti Starbucks drink on our drive but that’s real life. Things come up, stuff happens, but we move on and get over it.
I wish you all the best on your New Years Resolutions and hope you all remember to “Keep moving forward!”
…. and yes we did just watch Meet the Robinsons!